Woman Refuses To Pay For Her Sister’s Wedding After Sis Badmouthed Her Own Ceremony
What goes around comes around!
One woman took to Reddit to share her story about how her sister's poor behavior at her wedding came back around to bite her, and the Internet has been laughing at how perfectly karma has been on display! Keep reading to learn more.
Weddings Can Be Tense
Weddings can be pretty high-drama events, especially when it comes to two of the most stressful parts of life: money and family!
One woman took to Reddit to share how those two areas came together in the most dramatic fashion when it came to her sister's upcoming wedding.
She Set The Scene
"I (33F) have a younger sister Jamie (31F), who got engaged to her fiancé a few months ago, and now she's deep into wedding planning," shared Reddit user Big-Card9984 on a post that has since gone viral.
She revealed her family had a very interesting wedding tradition.
A Huge Helping Hand
"Our parents gifted us $25,000 each as a wedding present when we got engaged to help with wedding expenses and just help us get started with some savings," she explained.
When Big-Card9984 got that gift, she put it to use the right way!
Her Own Wedding Was Affordable
"I got married 2 years ago to my husband, and we practically had little to no expenses. We just did a small wedding ceremony/celebration in my parent's backyard, and I used my mom's old dress," she explained.
They kept to a strict budget!
They Saved A Large Chunk Of The Money
"Our only expenses were really just food and photography," she explained. "Due to this, we saved $20,000 of the money we were gifted and just put it into savings."
Her sister was NOT impressed.
She Called The Wedding "Trashy And Cheap"
"Although my husband and I were happy with our day, Jamie had a lot to say," Big-Card9984 wrote about her younger sister. "She practically spent every single family event after the wedding gossiping about how my wedding was so 'trashy and cheap.'"
That didn't stop her from asking for money.
Her Sister Expected A Fancy Affair
"I think she expected a lot more from me because I work as a software engineer, and my husband is a surgeon, and we could have afforded to have a much nicer wedding," she explained.
Her sister's tune changed when it came time for her own wedding.
Her Sister's Wedding Is Going Over The $25k Gift
"Now it's time for her wedding and she has plans to go all out for it for it, which I wouldn’t care about if she could afford it," she wrote.
"Instead, she has become a greedy bridezilla asking anyone and everyone for cash."
She's Spent More Than $30k Of Other People's Money
"My parents refused to give more than the original $25k, and other family members have chipped in, but maybe $5k max combined," she wrote.
So her sister turned to her for some more extra cash.
Her Sister Knows She Saved Money
"Unfortunately, my sister knows I saved the $20k from my parents and that my husband and I have a good amount of money saved up because of our salaries," she wrote.
I bet you can guess where this is going!
Her Sister Is Demanding The $20k She Saved
"She has been asking me nonstop to give her the $20k as a wedding gift or help pay for another one of her events like the bridal shower, bachelorette, rehearsal dinner, or honeymoon," she explained.
She's not taking no for an answer.
Taking Advantage Of Her Generosity
Her sister is demanding she shows the same generosity she's shown her other family members in the past.
"Her reasoning is that my husband and I could easily afford to gift her one of these things, and I even gifted my cousin a honeymoon vacation as a wedding gift last year."
Her Sister Demands The Same Treatment
Her sister thinks that because she was extremely generous and paid for her cousin's honeymoon, her relationship as a sister should count for even more.
"So why couldn't I do something similar for my only sibling when I did that for a cousin?"
Karma Came Back
"She's right in the sense that I could easily afford to pay for parts of her wedding," she wrote.
"But in all honestly, I don’t want to give her anything after she treated me so poorly following my own wedding."
She Laid Down The Law
"I told her my reasoning and that I don't want to (financially) support someone who didn’t support me on my big day," she wrote. Sounds reasonable, right?
"Now she has been going around telling family that I’m extremely selfish and immature for this."
Her Sister Planned Way Out Of Her Budget
"Apparently, she has already put down deposits on a lot of services and vendors for her plans and just expected me to help pay for it," she wrote.
"Now she has no way of paying the vendors and she can't get her deposits back either."
Her Sister's Future Family Can't Help
"The fiancé's family is low income and could not afford to give any money for the wedding," she explained when asked if her sister's future husband's family could help out.
"They’re also a bit more traditional too in terms of the whole 'bride's family has to pay for the wedding' mindset, so they don’t really care about her behavior."
Now She's Concerned She's In The Wrong
"So now my family wants me to help her out so she doesn't lose the little money she already has," Big-Card9984 wrote.
"I just don’t see how this is my problem. Am I the [jerk]?"
No Refunds
Big-Card9984 is worried that she's in the wrong because her sister is in a really bad position with her down payments.
"I know she will lose her deposit money if she can't pay the full payment, and she really wants to have an extravagant day."
The Comments Did Not Go Easy On Her Sister
"She got a sum of money for it, and if she can't stay within that budget NOBODY else needs to pay her a penny," one user wrote.
"You don’t owe her even five cents."
The Audacity
"Sister's audacity is so lacking in self-awareness that it’s almost comical," another user wrote.
"Even if she hadn’t spent the last two years publicly trashing your wedding, she still wouldn’t be entitled to any money."
"Spoiled Rich Girl"
"I had a pretty awesome wedding, and it cost me $12k. I did a lot of work myself. But the idea that more than double that and MORE is expected of OTHER PEOPLE is some serious spoiled rich girl entitlement," one user wrote.
"Being gifted $25k for getting engaged is more than generous, should anyone be so lucky."
Personal Tastes Are Different
"OP's wedding choices don’t even sound like the reasoning behind it was about money. It seems like she and her husband just wanted a small wedding because of personal tastes," another user noted.
"Which makes the sister’s comments bashing her wedding even worse."
Some Called It "Trashy"
A lot of comments found the irony in her sister calling her wedding "trashy" and then turning around and begging for money.
"Tell sis there is nothing trashier than spending money you don't have and then begging people to bail you out. Or wasting all these vendor's time," she wrote.
"Just Plain No"
"Why do people plan events that are outside their budget and then expect others to make up the difference? $25k is a lot of money if spent wisely," one user pointed out.
"It seems she banked on having the $20k you saved from the outset. No, just plain no."
A Lesson Learned Hard
"Anyone who suggests that OP give her sister money so she doesn't lose her deposits is more than welcome to reach into their own pockets!" one user suggested.
"It’s so easy to spend someone else’s money."
It's Her Savings
"Your sister doesn't deserve one cent of your money. And it's not 'trashy and cheap' to have a small, backyard wedding. It's called 'smart' and 'practical,'" one user wrote.
"And you now have $20,000 put aside for your own needs, your own expenses, to be spent as you see fit."
Sister Got The Same Opportunity
"Your sister is out of her mind and entitled to think she deserves the money you saved from your own wedding - just because you didn't spend it," one user commented.
"That money was yours to do what you wanted with; she got the same opportunity."
"She Got Into This Mess"
"Part of being an adult is learning to live within your means. She's 31 and got into this mess all on her own," another commenter pointed out.
"She can figure her way out of it."
What Do You Think?
Should Big-Card9984 suck it up and help a family member out with the money they have available, or is this an important lesson for the sister to learn about how to budget?
What would you do in this situation?
