James Van Der Says That Having 4 Daughters Helped Liberate His Worldview
Becoming a parent certainly shifts your perspectives and priorities around— whether you're ready for it or not.
Men who have the experience of becoming a "girl dad" often discuss how their worldview was impacted when their daughters entered their lives.
James Van Der Beek is a four-time "girl dad"
Actor and Dawson's Creek alum James Van Der Beek, 45, is no exception to experiencing the girl-dad epiphany.
As a father of six kids, four of whom are girls, Van Der Beek knows a thing or two about diaper duty and Disney princess films.
The Van Der Beek family is 6 kids strong
Van Der Beek became a father for the first time when his wife Kimberly Brook gave birth to their first daughter Olivia in 2010.
Since then, the family has been slowly expanding and the couple secretly welcomed another boy (their sixth child!) in November 2021.
Sundays are for manicures given by toddlers
Van Der Beek recently uploaded a picture on Instagram that summed up how his Sunday was going.
The father was in the middle of getting his nails painted a lovely pink coral shade by his 3-year-old toddler Gwendolyn.
The sleepy 3-year-old is focused on her job
The two-part post includes a photo of the father grinning at the camera while his daughter focuses on applying the pink nail paint.
Gwendolyn looks slightly disheveled wearing a sleep mask over her tousled blonde hair.
"Pink is a cool color"
In the second part of the post, Van Der Beek shared a video clip of the impromptu nail salon.
He asks Gwendolyn "How did you pick this color for me?" The toddler responds "Because I thought you would like it."
Life changes after becoming a girl dad
Gwendolyn was right, her father did like the nail color.
The dad-of-six wrote a lengthy caption on his Instagram post to share his thoughts about being a father alongside an anecdote from his days before fatherhood.
"Surprise liberation from limited belief systems"
The post's caption starts with "#parentingperk: Surprise liberation from limited belief systems."
Van Der Beek then goes on to describe how his worldview has shifted since becoming a parent but especially since having girls.
A former director was once wearing black nail polish
The caption continues to explain that back when James and Kimberly were pregnant with their first child, the actor was working on set with a director who was wearing black nail polish on one hand.
The dad recalls "It looked kind of emo, and someone commented on it."
The director's daughter had painted his nails
The director responded, "without an ounce of embarrassment - that his daughter had done it."
Van Der Beek remembers wondering why he hadn't taken it off "before working with a crew of people who might judge him."
Your perspective on what's considered "embarrassing" changes after children
The caption then shifts gears to Van Der Beek admitting "Now I get it. It's one of those things you can’t really convey to someone on the brink of having their first child."
It wasn't until after his daughter Olivia came along that the new father realized "the complete ease with which you abandon [things] you once thought mattered (but probably never really did in the first place)."
You become aware of things that didn't seem to exist before
The father also highlights "the simple joy you find in things that baffled you before you became a parent."
Suddenly, things that you never paid attention to before becoming a parent are now part of your everyday routine.
